We've curated a list of the top four most common questions from our community about booty play. Read on as we've compiled answers to all your burning questions from b-vibe's incredible Education Director, Tracy Felder!
“I’m interested in anal play, but my partner isn’t… what should I do?”
It can be disappointing if your partner decides that they don't want to try anal play. That feeling is totally understandable, and it’s important to not let that damage your relationship. If your partner isn’t into anal sex, do your best to not pressure them or try to convince them to change their mind. That’s far more likely to cause problems than improve things.
Instead of springing it on your partner, try opening the conversation with something like, “I'm sort of curious about anal sex and I've been reading about it online. Is that something that you'd be interested in exploring?"
“I’m interested in anal play, but I’m worried it will be messy…”
Sometimes shit happens! LOL. Just keep calm, clean up and keep going!
“I’m interested in anal play but I’m worried it will hurt?”
While anal play can be a lot of fun, it’s not always comfortable. Unfortunately, there’s an urban legend that anal sex is supposed to hurt or that somehow, it magically shifts from ouch to awesome. But if it ever does feel uncomfortable, there are better ways to deal with that than just hoping it’ll change.
One of the most common reasons anal sex hurts is due to a stingy or friction sensation which almost always means MORE LUBE.
Here’s a list of the best lubes for different scenarios:
Penetration with anything but a silicone toy — silicone-based lube
Penetration with silicone toys — water-based lube
Penetration with latex condoms — silicone-based or water-based, not oil-based
“I’m curious to try anal toys, but not sure where to start…”
Someone with zero experience starts with a sensual anal massage or anal fingering (with nitrile gloves and lube, of course), or try a small tapered butt plug like the Novice Plug.
For more information, b-Vibe has created an incredible beginner's guide to anal toys that's worth a read!