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Setting boundaries is particularly important when engaging with kink, roleplaying, and fantasies. Talking about these things for the first time is hard, but it will get easier the more you do. If this is new to your partner, respect them and give them time to make a decision.
Sexologist Lauren French says, "It's going to sound cliche, but sometimes the cliche just works! Communication is always a great place to start." This is precisely why we've put together a pleasure-centred communication guide for introducing toys into the bedroom that we hope diffuses any shred of discomfort or doubt.
While quality relationships are the key to quality lives, quality relationships require a high level of intimacy; something that requires careful and consistent tending to and is typically not something that flourishes over long periods of time without intentional self-reflection and effort.
As humans, we are hard-wired to want to put things into neat boxes with distinct labels, but when it comes to sex and sexuality, there are about a million little factors that contribute to our relationship to self and to partner(s) that simply won't fit into a box... no matter how hard you try. This binary mindset around libido - either you have it or you don't have it - eliminates the MANY different things that contribute to our experiences of arousal and desire.
Aftercare is something that has been adopted from the BDSM world. In BDSM, aftercare is a period of time after a play session that allows for a check-in, care, and a safe space to come down from the emotional high that may have come along with play. It’s a really great practice that anyone can use - even if you’re not into BDSM.
We form intimate connections by opening up, being vulnerable. There’s nothing easy about vulnerability, but, that’s largely the point. Only a few people in the world have the privilege of getting to know you on a deep level, and the fact that it’s scary, that it can be hard to trust others - in the end, that’s what makes our relationships worthwhile.